Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Kismet, Fate, and Destiny- A WILD BUNCH

by Deena Remiel

Isn’t it WILD how certain events happen and certain people enter our lives at poignant points? I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I am a strong believer in making my own way, being proactive rather than reactive, and yet I can’t help but notice that my seemingly independent decisions and actions are being influenced by something beyond me.

Let’s start with my husband’s and my decision to move from New Jersey to Arizona. How often do we find ourselves in complete accordance with our spouses? But one fateful day, we looked at each other and said the same thing: Let’s blow this clambake! And from that day forth, until we moved, every day there was some comment heard or picture seen that related to Arizona. A little freaky, no? These ‘signs’ further solidified in our minds that our decision to move was a right one.

Now let’s look at something really WILD. My father passed away in 2005, and since that time, I have felt his presence around me quite often and have been comforted by it. Over the past few years, however I have noticed that there are clusters of time when I hear or see his name everywhere. Now, his name is not a common one, Fred, so it gives me pause. Soon thereafter, something big occurs – good or bad. I have come to rely on Dad’s visits. I perk up and take note, becoming an acute observer, taking more time with decisions, and ready myself for an inevitable or destined event.

Most provocative, in my opinion, have been the chance meetings of people who have become dear friends and the ensuing opportunities those friendships have created. And conversely, opportunities that I chose to take advantage of have led to wonderful friendships. But were these meetings really by chance? Was it purely my decision to join RWA and the local chapter, to submit poetry for publication, or to join Decadent Publishing? In all cases, my friends and I keep joking around saying how these events and meetings were meant to be, fated, kismet, destined to happen.

As much as I would like to think I am the creator of my own destiny, I have come to believe that I have had some help along the way from beyond. Yes, my husband and I chose to move. Yes, I wrote Trinity, Relic, and Brethren Beginnings. Yes, I joined RWA and Desert Rose. Yes, it was only my finger that pushed the ‘send’ button. But my life, I have come to accept, is fated. And all the people I have been meeting on this journey, all the friendships that have developed, all the opportunities that keep presenting themselves are placed before me to either accept or decline.

I could list all the ‘what-ifs’ and the answers would be astounding- starting with what if we didn’t move. I had no time back east to read, let alone write. Yes, my life would look very different right now. If I remain wise and open to the signs set before me, I can make smart decisions that lead to positive results. And just who is offering these signs? Kismet, Fate, and Destiny, a pretty WILD bunch.

Are you reading the signs they’re setting out before you?


Deena Remiel


Maureen said...

Very thoughtful! The thing to remember is that it is all in your control because you chose to notice it and pay attention!

You are open to all of it so the universe pays attention and gently sees you get what you need.

Deena said...

Thanks, Maureen. Fascinating insights on your part, too. I hope to remain open for a long time. :)

JM said...

Fascinating. I absolutely believe in fate. Great post.

Kathleen said...

Deena, your're a girl after my own heart. I'm a strong believer in kismet. If you're taking care of yourself, you allow things to unfold the way they are meant to be.

Deena said...

Thanks Jennifer! What in your life do you attribute to fate?

Deena said...

Kathleen, we were destined to meet here and become friends! :D

Amber Scott said...

So that's why we feel like old friends! Fate, darling, fate. Beautiful post. I can hear you in here.

Terri Osburn said...

I can very much relate to this post. A little more than six years ago I decided to make a major move with two options being weighed. One was the beach and it seemed everywhere I turned, there were signs. Cards or pictures or just anything beachy.

All these years later, my life is a thousand times different and better for making this move. I highly believe there is something out there guiding me in the right direction, and I try hard to stay open for the clues she drops in my path.

Deena said...

My dearest Amber, yes, we were fated to be friends, pals, buddies, and this is one thing I wouldn't fight destiny. You're friendship is one of the dearest things I covet. :) Thank you!

Deena said...

Terri, I'm so glad things worked out for you when you listened to the signs all around you. One thing I've also learned is to never regret my choices. Whether they turn out to be successful or not, at the very least, I've gained wisdom from the experience. :)

Anonymous said...

Speaking from very personal experience, I think many things in my life were 'fate', or divine intervention, but I had to choose to follow those 'fate' signs to get to where I am.

I could have chosen my old life, but things would have been so drastically different. I don't think I would recognize 'that' me now. I am much more fearless, much more fun, and 100times happier with my husband than I would have been with 'what could have been'. Sometimes you just need to open your eyes and SEE what signs are there and where they are pointing.
YAY, me!

Deena said...

I concur! Yay, you, Heather! When we're in tune, in touch, engaged and present in our lives, we have the advantage of seeing all angles. This in turn allows us to make educated decisions that lead us to happier lives. :)

JoAnne Kenrick said...

Deena, what an interesting post! I'm a big believer in synchronicity, and very much believe that if we pay attention to all that is around us, signs are everywhere...we can chose to ignore those signs, or embrace them. We are in control of our own fate, but we are having a helping hand, too, I believe :) It's just up to us if we choose to take that hand xx

I love finding myself in a moment of synchronicity, it reminds me I'm on the 'right' path :)

Deena said...

I love that feeling, too, Jo-Anne. We're in the groove, and everything seems to be just right. :)